David, Jonathan, me in Maryland 2 weeks ago. My mom got that shirt for him a while ago and it’s the truth: Colon Cancer IS a real pain in the butt.
When we all found out that my brother Jonathan was diagnosed with Stage IV Colorectal Cancer last December it was like someone punched me in the stomach. I can’t even begin to imagine how that news affected his wife and children.
But he fought. And he continues to fight. He’s been through a full course of radiation therapy and continues to undergo chemotherapy. Jonathan is strong and amazing in so many ways. He is a devoted husband and father, insanely talented (including the very coolest architect handwriting you’ve ever seen), and incredibly selfless as he serves tirelessly in church and his community – all his life.
Of the 1,200+ blog posts I have published, there has never been a more difficult post to write.
Our family learned recently that the chemotherapy has lost its effectiveness and the tumors continue to grow. To say this is breaking our hearts is an understatement. Jonathan’s suffering has consumed me. I think about and pray for him constantly – as well my sister-in-law, their children, my parents, my other 4 brothers. And there are many, many more (his employees, colleagues, students, youth at church, friends, neighbors) who are heartsick about what Jonathan is going through.
Our family has a tremendous amount of faith and there is no question in our minds about God’s eternal plan of happiness for every person that comes to earth. I don’t usually use my blog to share much about my personal life and I haven’t said much about Jonathan’s battle or how it’s affected us this year. But there is something really special about a community of people (you being part of my community) who can make a difference in someone else’s life when they face heavy challenges. I’ll come back to that. First I can’t help but share a few pictures.
The cowlick. The shirt. Honestly, could he be cuter?
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Me + my brothers + sisters-in-law a dozen years ago. Jonathan and his enthusiasm in the top-right.
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A couple years ago when we met up for lunch during his layover in Phoenix. We live on opposite sides of the country so we were happy to get even just an hour or so with him as he passed through town for business.
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David and I went to Maryland to be with Jonathan and his family in February. This was a day or two before another round of chemo.
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Hanging out during chemo. My sweet parents have literally been by Jonathan’s side during all of this.
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Jonathan & Tina have raised Eagle Scouts. Last week Jonathan mustered up all the strength he had to be there for Tyler and Spencer’s big night.
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My mom has spent much of her time keeping her hands busy, crocheting blankets for family members lately.
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Taken just 2 days ago. Back: Spencer is 15, Tyler is 18, Tina is Jonathan’s sweet wife of 20 years.
Front: Garrett is 11, Jonathan (just 42 years old by the way) and Kristyn is almost 9.
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Every. single. day is precious.
This is true for Jonathan. For his family. For all of us. Even though our family is spread out – from China to the western U.S. to Maryland – each of us has been able to spend time with Jonathan in the past several weeks. What an honor – although a heartbreaking and humbling experience for each of us. And yet it has been an incredibly enriching and blessed experience. I love Jonathan and his family with all of my being.
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In situations like this it’s easy to feel helpless. David and I want to do something that will help Jonathan & Tina’s family during this incredibly difficult time as they face so many challenges and ultimately, as they transition to the next chapter in their life. The financial burdens they are facing are unquestionably very difficult.
Anyone who would like to send a donation to Jonathan’s family will have the opportunity to place their ad on my blog sidebar. The ads will be published on September 1 and stay there for 2 months – through October 31. As you know, I don’t have ads on my blog. I have never monetized my blog. This is a very unique opportunity to do something so helpful while also enjoying the benefits of fantastic exposure for your business. 100% of the donations will go to Jonathan’s family.
Anyone who would like to donate – even in a small amount – can most certainly do so without necessarily having to place an ad on my blog if you don’t want to.
Whether you are a company or a family or an individual … whether you already know Jonathan personally, or you don’t … whether you want to place an ad on my blog or remain anonymous in your donation … email brandi@beckyhiggins.com with what you’d like to do, and she will let you know the next step.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for even considering to help Jonathan and his family.
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Hug your family. Spend more time together. Don’t let unimportant, trivial things take away from cultivating stronger relationships with those who matter most.
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*hugs* Much love and prayers to your brother and your whole family.
Becky, my heart breaks for your family. You are all in my prayers. My MIL was diagnosed this spring with colon cancer and it ended up being stage 4. Things look good now, but I know that can change in an instant.
I am so sorry to hear what you are all going through.Sending many prayers & positive thoughts your way.Never lose faith.God Bless.
God Bless you, Jonathan and your whole family, Becky. Praying for peace for you through this terribly difficult situation. I am so sorry. Lifting you up in prayer.
It’s because of these times that photos take on a wonderful meaning…and why what we do is so important & therapeutic. Keeping you and your family in prayer….
I am so sorry, Becky…for you and your brother and your whole family that is dealing with such desperately heartbreaking circumstances. Thank you for sharing his/your story with us, and with me, and know that you are all in my prayers.
Becky, thanks for sharing this difficult, personal part of Jonathan’s journey with all of us. As part of your web family, I want to extend my thoughts & prayers for all of you. It is easy to see what a blessing Jonathan Is to your entire family. May your unwavering faith & love for eachother carry you through the days ahead!
Becky,
My heart goes out to your family. I’m so glad you have a strong faith that can get you through these difficult times. It definitely makes a difference to know that God provides a peace that can be found in seemingly impossible places. My prayers will be with you, Jonathan, & the rest of your family.
Oh, Becky. So sorry for what all of you are going through. Thank you for sharing this personal story to remind us how precious life is.
I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. Sending “hugs” and prayers to you, your whole family, and especially your brother and family.
Becky, I have seen what prayers can do. You and yours will be in mine.
Becky, my heart, thoughts and prayers go out to Jonathan, his family, your family, friends close to Jonathan and everyone that’s close to him.
Thinking of your family at this time. Cancer sucks
many positive thoughts and prayers coming your brothers way.
Becky, my heart aches for you and your family as you all go through this together. I will be praying for your brother, his wife and family and you & your family as well.
We went through a similar family experience in 2010. My father in law had been diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer. It was a day I will never forget, learning the news of his diagnosis. He fought for 10 months before he left this life.
We were already a close family, but we learned even more to cherish every day with one another and friends as well. Thank you for the reminder today to hug my children and remember the love of a dear man. Life is indeed precious.
My heart goes out to you, your family, Jonathan’s family and friends. Cancer has touched so many of our lives in so many different ways. I wish you all much strength, faith and courage as you go through the next days, weeks, months…whatever plan God has for him. My prayers are with him and his family as they continue down this unexpected journey.
Thank you Becky. Prayers to you and your family.
Praying for your sweet brother and his whole family. Praying God’s peace and grace for the days ahead whether Jonathan is ultimately healed here on earth or in heaven.
Becky – Tears are streaming down my face. I lost my brother to an accident several years ago. The lesson I learned most from that experience is that NO ONE knows how you feel. There is a tremendous peace is knowing what you know, and knowing what is truly important. Seeing your mom in those pictures is truly inspiring. Wishing you God’s sweetest blessings at this time.
My heart goes out to you and your family, Becky. We’re facing a painfully similar situation here (except it’s my 27 year old sister, and breast cancer). You will all be in my prayers.
many prayers for you and your family. my heart hurts.
Just heartwrenching…I am going to get off the computer now to love on my kids. May peace be amongst you and your family during this time.
Oh Becky…I’m so sorry for what your brother has to endure and all that his family, as well as the extended family has gone through. Cancer stinks!!! My prayers are with him and the rest of the family as you enter into this next phase. May God’s unfailing love and comfort descend upon each of you in ways you’ve yet to experience.
Becky,
You, Jonathan, and your whole family will be in my prayers. May God surround you all with His love, His beauty, His comfort, and His peace.
Oh Becky, I really feel for you and your whole family. Sending you much love and assuring you of my prayers. Much love x
Praying for your entire family at such a difficult time, thank you for sharing your story. Hugs!
My prayers are going out to your brother and the rest of the family! Cancer is no fun for anyone. I just lost my mom in September and it feels like it was yesterday that we had just found out and then went through all the Dr. apts. and her treatments. We had mom from May to September and then she was gone. Thats just how fast my moms cancer grew. And we still dont know which kind she had but the oncologist “thinks” it was small cell lung cancer. Becky I just did our local Relay For Life event on the 10th and it was such a hard time for me, yet I have been walking it for several years just to be support for all lives involved not knowing that my mom was going to be one of the many cancer losses we have in this world. What will get all of you through this is the positive attitude and just each others company. I could keep going but should stop….praying for all of you..
I am holding your family in love and awareness
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. My aunt passed from cancer just a week ago, so i thank you for reminding me that i am not alone. As i was trying to come to terms with my aunt’s death i can across on of your blog posts where you stated that hapiness is a choice and that you choose happines. Thak you for saying that. It helped me get into a better state of mind. Although i can’tbring my aunt back, i know she lived life to the fullest while she was alive, and she would want me to choose happiness.
My heart and my thoughts are with you and your whole family. I lost my son at the age of two….death is our most bittersweet blessing in this life. Peace.
Hi Becky…as an oncologist nurse, I see this horrible disease all the time, and it never gets easy..prayers to you and your family…thank you for sharing …
Big hugs to you all, I lost my lovely dad to this cancer in March xx
Becky –
In 2010 a coworkers son was diagnosed with a rare form of lung cancer (rare for someone in his late 30′s usually hits older people) this happened a few months before you offered a contest of free photo shoots and I won a photo shoot for my coworker and gave it to her for her to have a photo of her and her son. Well she had 4 other children and she felt weird doing just her sick son. So months later she finally got the photos taken after summer passed. She did one of each of her children and their families and one of all of her children and her and one of everyone together. She put the family photos in a circle on the wall. I am happy to be a part of this gesture (and could not do it with out you and the generosity of the photographer) as her son took a turn for the worse and dr’s said he was on radiation/chemo too long (guess 2 years is too long). He got pneumonia and 2 days later he died. It was an uncomfortable drive to follow her to the hospital as another coworker was do drive her. She needed to drive there on her own which I understand. He died later that night. It was hard as I cant imagine the loss of a child as no parent should have to endure that and her son was a year older than I am and I can’t imagine that either. I also can’t imagine how his children feel.
Later in 2010 my mom died unexpecidily and I wasnt there as she lived several states away.
What I learned from this is that I think memories and photos are important to have as they help you with the memories and keep people alive in your heart and mind.. their spirt lives on.
Thank you for the reminder: …..
Hug your family. Spend more time together. Don’t let unimportant, trivial things take away from cultivating stronger relationships with those who matter most.
Thanks for teaching us to cultivate a good life.
May you cherish all the moments you have with Jonathan!
Oh, Becky, I am heartsick for all of you. You write of this with such poise and grace, even as I know you must have written it through tears. I pray blessings for Jonathan, his family and all those whose lives have been touched by his. May God work through this pain in a way that heals and transforms.
I read this through tears. I am so very sorry for what your brother and family are going through. Too many people, friends, family, acquaintances have been affected by cancer. All different kinds of cancer. One of my co-workers has lived through breast cancer twice. It’s one of those things that just isn’t fair. I am not a religious person, but will be thinking of you and your family. Thank you for the reminder that everyday is precious. EVERY. SINGLE. MINUTE. And thank you for sharing your family with us. Take care.
So sorry for what you’re going through, even more so for his wife and children. God bless you all
Becky I’m so sorry to hear that cancer is touching your lives as well. We have lost one family member and had 3 other members go thru surgery, radiation and chemo. I am a survivor and so is my MIL. My SIL is currently going thru chemo for breast cancer but thankfully it’s stage 1. Our family sends prayers for your brother, Johnathan and your family. We’ll lift you all up to God in our prayers as well. My heart aches for you Becky as I know the pain of seeing someone you love go thru this. All the best.
Praying for Jonathan’s healing and comfort and for your family’s strength and courage. We lost my mom to colon cancer when I was 12.
Hi Becky,
My thoughts and prayers are with your ENTIRE family during this difficult time.
I’m sitting here with tears as I read this. I will continue to pray.
I know sharing stuff like this, and being vulnerable is hard, but I’d like to say Thank You. As I get ready to go in to have my own GI procedures tomorrow, and all that entails, I pulled up your blog and read this. It certainly puts things in perspective. Hopefully for some it will be the push they NEED to remember the importance of getting a colonoscopy (I’m a RN and see far to many heartbreaking things that can be screened for) and so hopefully this will spur people on to get their own health checked out and help others. Thanks for sharing about a touching and personal subject.
Again, your brother and entire family will continue to be in my prayers.
Blessings,
Stacy
I’m praying for your brother, his family and all of you who are connected to him. My heart goes out to you.
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Love, hugs and prayers to your brother, his wife & children, and your family.
Blessings to you all and the biggest hugs to all members of your family. This is a road I have travelled several times so I understand the feelings. What a wonderful family to rally around him so completely. His entire family knows your love and will be forever grateful.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Becky, i just heard from my sister who had lunch with Kathy, Tina’s sister, and shared the prognosis for J. I literally ran to facebook as fast as my fingers would take me to see if there was a way to personally touch base with you and ended up seeing your blog post first. I am so sorry to hear of this news. My heart truly feels for you, your family, and my cousin and her eternal companion. I am so grateful that we share the same knowledge and beliefs about eternal families. That knowledge gives me strength and peace in times like this. Thank you to you and all of your family for all of the love you have always shown toward my cousin. I am sure she will continue to rely on nit for many years to come. May our Heavenly Father wrap his loving arms around you during this difficult time. Please know that if you need ANYTHING during these final days, I am glad to help. Just send me an email to the address attached to this comment. With love, Kristin
Prayers for Jonathan, and all of his family and yours. A powerful reminder to live every day to the fullest.
Hi Becky – we lost my beautiful sister inlaw to cancer last year and it truely is both heart breaking. I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to drive the 4hr trip to take my elderly mother and father inlaw to spend a week with her, looking after her and making her as comfortable as possible.
I love your quote at the end of your post. It’s so true!
We’ll be praying for you all from here in New Zealand. Every single day, hour, minute is precious.
Love, hugs, and prayers to you all.
Becky- I’m so sorry. I’m not a very religious person and I don’t pray much but honestly, my heart is with you. We lost my grandfather ( 78 yrs old) 4 weeks ago. Very unexpectantly and without going into much detail, dramatically. It’s been very hard to understand the why’s of his death. It’s been very hard to see my grandmother ( they were married for 40 yrs) try to live this life alone. My heart breaks for her everyday and every night. I sobbed when you said “hug your family. Spend more time together. Don’t let unimportant trivial things take away from cultivating stronger relationships with those who matter.” SO TRUE. So important to let those know who mean something to you. I miss my gpa. I’m having a hard time with the fact that I didn’t get to say good bye or really tell him how important he was to me and our family. No one got to. I think he knew of course. Thank you for the reminder. Thank you for producing Project Life for us to record our lives. Just Thank You. Hugs
Love you.
My heart Goes out to you & your family.
When yours Was being diagnosed, Mine Was losing his 7 year fight w/brain cancer.
Prayers to all!
Becky,
My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my brother to brain cancer five years ago when he was 45. It is such a hard thing to go through. My prayers are with you and your brother.
Kristi
My heart aches for Jonathan, his wife, kids and all your family. I sit hear and just ask why this happens to such young people. May you all find strength in the power of your family’s love. Every day is a gift, unwrap it and celebrate it no matter how hard. Even if for a split second that day.
Hugs across the waves….
Kristina
Oh Becky, I am so, so, sorry to hear about your brother. I am just in tears. I wish you and your family the continued strength and peace you need to get through such a difficult time!! xo And, I have to say, too, how amazing you are for even being able to continue to work through the pain and be ever so gracious and kind — even with people complaining about trivial things to you the way they do — you’re all in my thoughts and prayers!!! I feel so bad for you all — and that picture of your Mom by your brother’s side just rips my heart right out!! :’(
Hey Becky! What a lovely entry for your brother.
We love your family so much…they have such a special place in my heart. Jonathan has been so strong and such a wonderful example to me of faith in God. I love the picture you added of your mom, at his bedside. Thank goodness for the plan of happiness!!! Love you all! and know i am thinking and praying for you all!!! Jodi & kids!
Dearest Becky and Family Jonathan and family and Mom and Dad, my heart breaks for you all, please know you all are in my prayers, may God hold you in his loving arms during this difficult time..Love and Prayers Donna
Becky, my heart goes out to you and your family. Cancer is such an awful thing and so indiscriminate in who it touches. Much love and prayers to you and your family.
Oh I am so sorry to hear that! I lost my brother to brain cancer two years ago (he was only 18). It was the hardest thing I have ever been through. Stay strong in your faith it’s the only thing that can help you through. We will pray for healing for your brother! Stay strong
Cancer seems to touch us all. Just read your post about your brother. So very sad for you all. I am very close to my 2 brothers, I cannot imagine what you are going through. Hugs and prayers
Susan (Becky I have been following you since you started, I adore your work!)
Your post brought tears to my eyes. Our community has recently lost 2 young husbands, dads and sons within the last couple of weeks. Your brother sounds like an amazing person and God bless his wife and children. I will add them to my prayers at night and you also. hugs
I’m so sorry. Cancer is way too prevalent in the world right now. I have dear friends fighting as well. My prayers go out to you and your family in this time.
Becky, you and your family are in my prayers. I wish you all strength and peace during this difficult time.
Becky, I am so sory to hear about your brother. I am sitting hear at work on my break reading you blog and I can’t stop crying. My boss came into my office and asked me why are you crying? Are you alright? I couldn’t speak. I think it has to due with our Co-worker here at work battling her cancer for the 3rd time. It doesn’t look good for her. I am extremely sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, Jonathan and his family. May God Bless you all.
Tears…..I am so sorry your family is going through this. Prayers your way.
Prayers heading your way – May God continue to watch over you all!
Your post brings tears to my eyes. So sorry your brother and your family are having to go through this. I will pray for you and your family and I hope you guys find strength and peace during this time.
I sit with tears in my eyes. My heart aches because I know the pain you are going through. It was just last year that I lost my brother to colon cancer. He was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer on his 50th birthday. They said that he likely had the cancer for 10 years by the time it was caught. He didn’t make it to his 51st birthday, and my heart still aches over the loss. Cancer is such a horrible, horrible disease, and I’m so sorry for what your brother and his family has to endure. Praying for peace, strength and hope through what I know is a very difficult time.
Becky, So sorry to hear about your brother. My ‘little’ brother was diagnosed in 2009 with Stage IV Colon cancer at age 38. What a shock; no one in our family had ever been afflicted! He had a resection and two different courses of chemo that lasted just over a year. I am happy to say that he is doing just great! And so far no recurrance! I pray your brother has a successful fight.
Becky…with many prayers and blessing coming to you and all those in your “family”! Lord only knows the why’s, but if you read your post…I believe you have your answer as to what his mission was and what he needed to accomplish. This trial is another testament to all who believe! Our son is an Eagle Scout as of two years ago at the age of 13. Seeing the picture of your nephew pinning the father pin was very emotional for me! Your brother has had an incredible journey! He has touched many along the way…keep the faith! His mission is not done!
Hugs…
Blessings, Becky!
My prayers are with your family during this difficult time.
I have tears in my eyes as this post hits home. My aunt, just 41, passed away from ovarian cancer on Sunday night. She put up a valiant fight but the tumors spread and the doctors could do nothing more. Hugs and prayers to your brother and your entire family.
My heart and prayers go out to your family!! I too am traveling this difficult road and I know only to well the pain your family is going through. My uncle was diagnosed with stage iv metastic prostate cancer in February and just yesterday we learned his treatments (radiation & hormone therapy) have been in vain His cancer continues to grow/spread at a mind boggling rate!! We have had to make the unbeleivably difficult decsion to stop treatments and have Hospice brought in to manage his pain and end of life. He is only 61.
I ask a favor……in your prayers for your own brother please add my uncle Derek in hopes that his journey from this day forward will be painlessvi and I will be adding your brother to my own prayers!!!
Hugs to you and your family!!
My heat aches for you and your family. Prayers and hugs to all.
Becky, I am so, so sorry to hear about this! Cancer is so horrible, and it’s something my family (and my husband’s) are intimately acquainted with. My heart hurts for you & your family!
So sorry to hear about your brother. Cancer is such a horrible disease. I hope your brother is able to fight this and win! Praying for you and your family through this difficult time.
I am so sorry to hear about your brother’s battle with cancer. My dad was 42 when he lost his battle with cancer. It is hard to watch the ones we love suffer so much from such a horrible disease. Tears come as I think of what your family must be going through. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May you experience our Heavenly Father’s tender mercies and feel of his great love for you, your family, and most especially your brother.
Becky–to put it mildly cancer sucks! We will include you and the fam in our prayers. I personally know that there are no words to give true comfort at this point in time, but know that others care and are praying for all of you.
Oh Becky, I am so very sorry that your brother is suffering so. Sending prayers and love to everybody. Great big hugs!
I am so very sorry to hear the the news of your brother. I know there really are no words that can comfort at this time, but just know that we are praying for him and all of your family and that you are in our thoughs and hearts.
We love Jonathan’s family. They are all just amazing. I have the blessing of knowing them. They are strong and courageous. All are in our prayers.
my heart aches for you and your family. In 2001 my father was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer at the age of 53. He was given 0 to 3 years. Instead of being negative he declared he was living on borrowed time and every day he lived was a bonus day from God. When he made it to his 3rd year anniversary he declared that the days were super bonus days from God! My father lived 5 glorious years after being diagnosed with cancer. Though I am sad my father is no longer here I am so greatful that God gave us this gift…we realized time and family is precious. We traveled the world together, in between treatments and made sure we told each other how much we loved each otherer. There were no regrets when he died and I praise God for this gift!
Please get your colonoscopies at the age of 50 (my father waited until he was 53). If you have rectal bleeding speak to your doctor. My father made us promise we would get them done at 40…he said the colonoscopy is nothing compared to colon cancer. I had signs and had my first one at 32…praise God I do not have cancer, but I will be getting checked every 5 years now. It was easy…the worst part is the prep where you drink the special drink to clear you out…I saw my father suffer…I can do this for him!
Becky I will be praying for your family and that you all will have years of bonus days from God!
Your brother and your entire family are now part of my prayers.
Becky….praying for strength and a miracle…I would love to send a donation to help…do you have a paypal account?? Blessings to Jonathan and his sweet family!!
Hugs,
Crisann
I am so, so sorry this is happening. Most especially for Tina, who has to go on being wife and mom during all this.
I adore and am saddened by the photo of your mom by his sturdy sleigh bed, faithfully watching over his sleep.
Dear Becky ~ I am so incredibly sorry about this news of your brother. You and your entire family are in my thought and prayers. May God’s grace keep you during this difficult time and may his wings of protection keep you wrapped up in warmth.
Dear Becky, I have read about your brother having cancer this past year and was hoping that this note would tell me that everything was good but I have gone through this many times in my life already and lost my dad to cancer so my heart and my prayers are with all of you. God does have a plan and it may not be what we want but it’s his plan I guess so we should just take one day at a time and live them as happy and fun as we possibly can. I will still pray for healing and happiness in this time and so happy to see and hear how you are standing by him
You are amazing!! Hugs and Smiles, Teresa
Becky, I am so so sorry. My father is battling stage 4 brain cancer…hardest thing we’ve ever been through. Keeping you & your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Becky and family,
My heart is breaking wide open over this sad situation. My prayers are going out to your brother and his precious family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May you all be blessed with peace, comfort and strength.
Becky, My prayers and thoughts are with all of you.
Dearest Becky,
I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes, and please know that I am praying for you, for your brother, and your entire family. Be strong and stay prayful. May God bless and keep you all during this difficult time.
Thoughts & prayers coming your way Becky, for you, your brother & your family. In the meantime, I thought you might be interested in this article. I know yerba mate is definitely an acquired taste though. My hubby thinks it tastes like the alfalfa tea his dad used to drink when he was a boy, & he won’t touch it. My mother was born & raised in Argentina, & I have drank it since I was a child, as most do in that part of South America. It’s part of the culture there. Best wishes to you & yours!
http://www.naturalnews.com/034806_Yerba_mate_colon_cancer_caffeine.html
So, so sorry to hear this. I have a blog from our pastor’s wife about her battle with rectal cancer as well. Very uplifting and great prayers. May peace be with you and the entire family.
http://www.laurashooksblog.blogspot.com/
Becky:
Praying for Jonathan, you and the rest of your family. May you find comfort in God, he is the ultimate healer.
A very difficult time for you and your family and our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sweet, Becky. My heart is breaking for you and your family. I’m so sorry. I’ve been wondering what was going on with you for a couple weeks (totally realizing it’s none of my business, but knowing something was upsetting you). Seeing your sweet momma by his side brings joy and sadness to my heart. I love that she doesn’t want to leave his side, but I can’t imagine the pain she must be going through as well.
I’ll be adding your family to my daily prayers.
Hugs.
What a sweet tribute to you brother who is facing a tremendous ordeal. Praying for your brother, his wife and children, and the rest of the family. It is very heartbreaking. I will pray for grace and strength that only God can give.
Hugs,
Michelle
My heart goes out to you and your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh Becky, I’m so sorry about your brother, Jonathan’s illness. He is so BRAVE. Your sweet mother next to him brought tears to my eyes. What a lovely family he has, may the Lord give them strength. My prayers to all of you.
My heart goes out to you and your family. My family has also been touched by colon cancer. My grandmother died at 50 yrs old of colon cancer when my Mom was only 12. She lost her father when she was 16 to cancer as well. I will be praying for Jonathan and all of your family.
My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this uncertain time.
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You’ve been monumental in my Sbing endeavors and I wish you and your family all the best.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Becky, and your brother and your entire family.
I am in tears reading this post. I lost my brother several years ago. There is no one like a brother! I will be praying for your brother, you and your family. I know that God can do anything!
Dear Becky-
your post left me heart broken, knowing first hand what you and your family members are going through. My (too young) husband of 33 years lost his battle with lung cancer after only 7 hard fought months. the chemo, the hospitalizations…hoping for miracles….waiting for a new clinical trial to open, too late for us….
My prayers are with you all during this time. Your brother is lucky to have a strong and loving family around him.
I am so saddened for you. In 2005, I was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer. I won’t go into all the information, but I had a much greater chance of passing then surviving. With faith, prayer, and a community of people, I made it. I know how much cancer sucks, and I am praying for your brother, Jonathan. I also will continue to pray for you, and the entire family. I am glad you have reached out to us, your friends in this community. We will hold onto you, and try to help. God, place Your loving hands on this family, on Jonathan, and give them peace, grace and hope.
*hugs*
I will continue to pray. Many in my family who have had gut cancer of some kind. I pray one day we will conquer cancer. I wish I had something more eloquent to say. Just know that many admire and care for you and your family.
Praying for your brother, for all your family, for healing. God can work a miracle.
I think now everyone has been affected by these awful diseases. We know someone or some have battled their sickness. I am grateful for my beliefs because I know families are FOREVER! What a wonderful touching post we all can have “a perfect day” when we can fully understand what is important in our lives. For me it’s family! Prayers for you and your wonderful family.
I will be praying for Jonathan and, in fact, your entire family as I know how cancer affects far more than just the individual. Hold strong in your faith and know that others are lifting you all up in prayer. The Great Physician is at work whether we see it outwardly or not. ((HUGS))
Praying for you all…God Bless!
My thoughts and prayers with you, your family and Jonathan’s wife and kids. I second your reminders to hug those we love and never take any day for granted.
My prayers are going out to you, Jonathan and your families. I can certainly feel the love you have for your brother and am sad that you all are having to go through difficult time. I recently lost my younger brother so I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. You are so right, each day is precious. We live on the other side of the world from my family so time spent with them is very special. May you have lots of very special moments with your family.
I am so sorry that your brother and your whole family have to deal with this. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
The tears flowed freely as I read this post. 2 years ago this September I said good bye to my mother after her battle with lung cancer. She was diagnosed at 58, passed away 8 days after she turned 60. Never smoked a day in her life, valiant church member. We knew in July of 2010 that she would only have 2 months max to live. All 32 members of my family moved into her 1800 sq ft home and lived with her. We slept on the ground in the hallway, we sang with her, loved her, relished in the spirit that surrounded her, and ate cookies with ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner because when you dying who cares what you eat, and then topped it off with butterscotch dipped cones from Dairy Queen. She was a true angel. The spirit that was around her was palpable and all the grand children wanted to be right next to her. I never wanted to leave. I know you will capture and cherish every moment you have with him. Prayers for you and your family during this difficult time. By the way. I was doing project life that year and I have a picture with my mom in it for everyday for three months. I go back all the time to those pages and relish in those memories. in the priceless pictures of her and my children. Thank you for giving me the gift of memories that are captured and cherished.
Becky
Your brave brother will be in my prayers tonight and every night. Much love and a big hug. I had the honor of meeting you twice at CKU’s years ago.
As an oncology RN, I am all too aware of the toll that cancer can take on a patient and his/her family. I am truly sorry for the pain to all involved, especially Jonathan’s. Having been a fan of yours for many years, it’s been obvious how much you love your family. I hope that you take comfort in knowing that you have loved and honored your brother well. Thank you for giving the opportunity to bless Jonathan and his family. Prayers are with you all.
I will pray for your family
Much love, thoughts and prayers go out to Jonathan, his family and your entire extended family. Thank you for opening up to us during this difficult time. Cancer is a terrible disease that definitely affects the entire family. My heart goes out to you Becky.
Becky:
I admire you so much for posting such a personal/emotional family moment with your followers/fans. I truly believe in the power of prayer and I just want you to know that you family will be in my daily thoughts and prayers.
Sending you lots of hugs and blessings!!
Teri
Becky –
My heart bleeds for Jonathan (which happens to be my very own 42 year old brother’s name) and his beautiful family. Becky, you are blessed to have your Faith, knowing that God has an eternal plan for each of us. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for your beautiful post, so that we may also “know” what a special person Jonathan is. Thanks to you, I will hug each of my four children a little tighter tonight and tell my husband just how much I love him and I will remember to NEVER take life for granted.
Blessings to your entire family.
i am so gad you shared your story. your faimily is amazing and inspiring. i myself just beat bile duct cancer at age of 38. finished chemo & radiation in april. was getting back on my feet and getting ready to go back to work when God had another plan for me. a few days ago i landed in the hospital having a seizure and stroke. doctors told me i have a brain tumor, tumor near my heart and one on my ovary. said my cancer spread which is very rare for stage 1 but it can happen. im staying strong for my sons and family. i will keep you and your brother and his family in my prayers. we all need prayer. thank you again for sharing!
Cassie
Becky, I’m so sorry for you and your family. My heart is broken for Jonathan and his sweet wife & children. I’m praying for them and for your family.
So sorry to read your news, and to sense the work/life stress over the last few weeks. Hopefully these messages will help you realise you are not alone. Jonathan seems to have a wonderful family around him. The words of psalm 23 seem very relevant to providing an element of comfort at this time x
My diagnosis with stage II colectoral cancer was 6 years ago and I also was 42 when diagnosised. I truly believe in the power of prayer and a positive attitude. I will be praying for your entire family.
Awww, Becky, I can not even begin to imagine the pain you and your family are going through. Thank you very much for sharing your wonderful brother with us; he sure seems like such a special man. I will carry him in my thoughts, and my heart, too; and, I will pray for him, and for your family.
{hugs hugs hugs}
Valerie
Becky – I am so very sorry to read this. My prayers are with Jonathan and your whole family.
Adding you all to my prayers. Hugs!
:’(
All our love and prayers… Our heart aches for your and his family… Know we think of you and live you very much…
Thank you for sharing Becky. At times like these we need others to hold us up in prayer. I will be praying for your brother and his family…for you and your family as well. God Bless.
Becky,
Today’s post reminded me of the proverb “Joy shared is joy doubled; a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved.” Please know that your brother & family are in my prayers and I like you know that our Heavenly Father only desires the best for His children. I hope your family is able to feel the collective power of prayer being showered on them by so many.
I was especially touched by the image of your mother at Jonathan’s bedside, just being there to attend to his needs and remind him he is not alone as he battles to stay on this earth with his family. I will offer many extra prayers for her as I cannot imagine the depth of her very human emotions of concern, sadness, heartbreak…I have no doubt of her faith or trust in the Savior, but still know this must be one of the hardest situations for a parent to find themselves in.
I hope you will take some time to unplug and take care of the things that matter most.
Becky – Sending much love, many hugs and continued prayers for your entire family. I have had the privilege of meeting your brother and his wonderful family and I have not been able to get them off of my mind since reading your post. They will remain in my heart and prayers. May God pour out His abundant blessings of mercy and healing on Jonathan.
Becky – - Praying for your family during this difficult time!
My hearts breaks for your family!
Becky,
I am heartbroken for your brother and his family. My brother was also diagnosed with colorectal cancer in 2008. This Spring it came back in his lung. He is currently undergoing chemotherapy. May God bring your family peace and comfort during this difficult time. Blessings to you.
Blythe
Becky, I started to read this post at work today, but had to stop because of my tears. Your family’s faith and strength will see you through this, but I know it is still devastating. You will all be in my prayers!
Becky:
You are in my thoughts and prayers. My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer which travelled to the liver. Stage IV liver cancer. He had chemo for 9 months. This was in 1999. He is still here with me. God can work miracles!!!
Dear Becky,
Lots of hugs to you and yours. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I’ve admired you and your mom from afar, and I’m even more in awe. I love that picture of her at his bedside. I hope and pray to be that kind of mom. Take comfort in His peace.
ileana
hugs and love to you all, Becky! My family and I will have all of you in our prayers.
love you,
Angela
Becky,
My great-grandfather died of colon cancer when I was ten. He was a sweet man and called me “the little lady.” There are no words in times like this, but I will pray for you and all of your and his family.
I know that there are so many things I do not understand in life, so much pain, but I know He knows why. I know there is a plan. Do not loose faith.
Blessings,
Kristan
Dear Jesus, Divine Physician and Healer of the sick, we turn to you in this time of illness. O dearest comforter of the troubled, alleviate our worry and sorrow with your gentle love, and grant us the grace and strength to accept this burden. Dear God, we place our worries in your hands. We place our sick under your care and humbly ask that you restore Johnathan to health again. Above all, grant us the grace to acknowledge your will and know that whatever you do, you do for the love of us. Amen.
God Bless You and your family.
Beautiful message and tribute to your big brother and my brother-in-law, Thank you Becky!
I’m crying. My heart goes out to your family. I will be praying. Stay strong and positive no matter what. God bless you, Becky!
Oh Becky, my heart goes out to you and all of your family, and will be keeping all of you in my prayers.
Becky,
Praying for your entire family. Sending hugs of comfort and support.
Know that God has your family in his arms. I learned, when I went through my Colo-Rectal cancer journey, that the Power of Prayer is the most valuable tool for the entire family. As you all move forward into an uncertain future, know that we all are Praying.
Becky, I’m so sorry your family is going through such a difficult time. My mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer spring 2010…being a nurse, it was very difficult to watch my mom suffer and not be able to do anything about it. she didn’t make through though…she died this June. When I’m really missing her, I just try to remember she is no longer in pain and now her body is perfect. St Peregrine is the patron saint of cancer victims. My thoughts and prayers are with you, one can never have too many people praying…saints included. *hugs*
Beautiful message. This has been truly heartbreaking. We do what we can for the family. I wish I could do more. I am planning to be over there on Friday. As always- sending our love and prayers to Jonathan, Tina & the kids.
Positive thoughts and prayers sent for you and your family.
Thanks so much for this Becky, I was having a bit of a ‘poor me’ day today and then I read your post and it put my life back into perspective. I guess when I prayed for the lord to point me in the right direction this morning he had a totally different direction in mind! Isn’t that always the way!
In New Zealand we have a saying, Kia Kaha, it means be strong.
So Kia Kaha to you and your family Becky, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Becky,
When my aunt was battling breast cancer, she said something that has stuck with me ever since. She said that the only time she cried was when she thought about the people who got cancer without the support of family and friends like she had. Or who fought cancer in a 3rd world country, without access to proper medical care (she had done missionary trips and seen many people like that). I was so amazed that instead of focusing on the bad hand she had been dealt, she was counting her blessings.
She also said that no matter the outcome, she felt lucky to have the opportunity to see the outpouring of love from the hundreds of people who had come to visit her, sent her cards, phoned her, etc. She said we all have our number come up some day, and people who are hit by a bus don’t have that experience, and even if the cancer claimed her, she would be happy that she didn’t die suddenly because she got to say goodbye and I love you, & chose her last words to so many people.
Your brother is so blessed to have such a wonderful, supportive family.
All best to him and to you…
Renee
Oh, Becky, I am so very, very sorry. My heart goes out to your whole family and I will be keeping your sweet brother in my prayers. Thank you for sharing with us today, not only so that we can help through prayers and financial support, but also thank you for reminding us how precious our days are. May the Lord give you His strength, comfort, and peace as you continue to love and support your brother during this most difficult time.
Words can not describe how my heart aches for you.
I have been following your blog for years. Reading your wonderful articles in scrapbook magazines. Followed your rules for photographing newborns.
That article you wrote in the Creating Keepsakes magazine about photographing babies helped me document my 5th child when he was born.
My son passed away 6yrs ago this November from Cancer. If I didn’t have any of those beautiful photos of just about every part of his sweet body I would be so sad. I video taped his life more than any of my other 5 children.
You helped me learn how to document life better than I had ever done before.
I feel your pain as you and your precious family bear this heavy burden.
It is not easy, it never will be ever. I am not going to lie to you.
With the gospel and our faith and knowing God’s plan it makes it a {little} easier to live through. I know this glorious plan that our loving Heavenly Father has prepared for us is real. It is for all of us.
We will be with our families forever, eternity.
I will get to see my son again. I live for that day. I hold it so precious to my heart.
Families are the greatest gift God has given us.
You will know with out a doubt that God’s love will carry you through this terrible time.
I know I could not be writing this to you 6yrs later if I didn’t have that faith.
I wish I could give you a hug and your brother Johnathan’s family too.
{{{{{cyber hugs}}}}}}
From all the way over in the North Country of Canada -
My prayers are with you and Johnathan’s family.
McMahon Family
Edmonton, Ab Canada
Becky, prayers and thoughts for Jonathon and all of his family from a little town in Australia. You inspire me in many ways and times such as these make me grateful for my faith and the faith of others. God Bless
Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
Dear Becky my prayers for your dear brother Jonathan and his family as well as for you and all your family. It’s hard to understand why these things happen but I ask God to give you all the strength to carry on! From Mexico I send you a big hug!
What God brings you to He will bring you through. It is all I can hold true when there is no other reason…
Hugs and Blessings…thank you for letting us share the burden you are carrying. I hope knowing we all care and are all praying for you helps in such a helpless situation.
Becky I will send prayers.
My only brother and only sister passed away 7 months apart and I am the only child left. My mom has been in and out of hospitals because of the pain of losing her children. It has been a very difficult time in my life. My life is forever changed. Hugs
Becky, my heart breaks for you and your whole family. I know how hard it is because I lost my mom 6 years ago to colon cancer. She was so brave and fought for 11 months. In the end, she just had no strength left to fight. She is with God now and that gives me great comfort but I miss her every day. I also lost my dad to cancer 2 years ago. It really does make you realize that every life is precious and we should spend time with family and friends and not sweat the small stuff. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sending prayers to your whole family. I’m glad you got to spend time with your brother, I’m sure it meant the world to him. I don’t have an ad to place but I would certainly like to help out your brother’s family so I will send an email and find out how to do that.
God Bless you and your whole family,
Big hugs,
Leslie
Becky,
I don’t know what else to say except that I am sorry and will keep all of your family in my prayers.
Mary Clark
Fort Polk , LA
I am so sorry. Praying with all my heart for a miracle & complete healing!
Becky,
I am so saddened and sorry to read this blog. I knew your brother was ill and I can’t imagine what you have all been going through. Please know you will all be in my prayers and God Bless Jonathan and his entire family.
I can’t imagine how overwhelmed you must be and still find time to let us all know what is happening with PL
and your family, Take care of yourself. May God hold you all close to him.
Your post made me cry and breaks my heart to read about what your Brother and your family are going through. I know the pain you are feeling and I send you my love & positive thoughts xxx
Becky, you have an absolutely phenomenal family. I pray that you will all find “peace, beyond understanding,” because, really, the whole thing makes no sense on this side of the veil. Love, hugs, prayers for all of you.
Sending you lots of love during this difficult time and I am praying for your family to have heart, love and patience during this difficult time!
Prayers for your brother and his family including you. My father lost his battle with the same disease at the age of 51 in 1989. It is heartbreaking. So sorry that the chemo isn’t working any more. I will pray for a miracle and for strength for your family. I always hoped that with the advances in medicine no other family would have to go through what we did by now. Blessings…
Dear Jonathan and all your family. I don’t normally pray – having lost many close family members I find it hard to believe He is listening. But I have just prayed that He will help you all. My thoughts will be with you all. xxx
Praying for you and your family. God bless.
Praying for you and Jonathan’s family during this difficult time.
Oh Becky, I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you all.
Becky, even though we don’t know each other personally and probably never will I want you to know that your post touched my heart. I can only imagine what you and your family must be going through. It makes me cry. I can feel the heartache in your words. Family is what matters the most in life. My thoughts are with you,your family and of course your brother and his family!
Becky, you and your family are in my thoughts and my heart at this sad time xx
I’m so sorry to hear this heartbreaking news. Thank you for sharing your heart, and the opportunity to help. Jonathan and his/your entire family have been added to my prayer list.
God’s peace!
Sending a quick prayer for Jonathan and his entire family, including yourself. Thank you for sharing this.
First I am very sorry to hear about your brother. I completely know what you are going through. Bottom line – cancer sucks! I hope that Jonathan and your family find peace in the journey of life to come. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Being the surviving spouse of a colon cancer victim I can say for sure – the time you spend with your brother now that you know, will forever comfort you. You will have time to say things to him that are important to you and to him too. My thoughts are with your entire family.
Becky,
We hold you, Jonathan and your family in our hearts, and pray God’s strength gives you comfort.
I’m so sorry. That’s all I can think of to say.
Your family is in my prayers. May God gives you the strenght during this difficult time.
My mother in law fought the fight with colon cancer too. I understand how difficult this is!! Sending prayers to him, his family and you too!! Hugs!!!!
Hi Becky, It’s been a long, long time since I have seen you. You were just a a little girl the last time I can remember! You have the most amazing and wonderful family in the world! Your family was the first to welcome us to Brunswick when we moved here from Wisconsin. Your wonderful parents have seen us through a horrible tragedy when my son-in-law was killed in an auto accident at the young age of 32. I was so very saddened to hear of Jonathan’s illness..he is a wonderful person and our boys shared many times togehter. I pray for Jonathan and your enitre family that God gives you all the strength and power to fight this illness and that God keeps Jonathan as pain free as is possible. My and my husband’s and daughter’s(Tracy) prayers are with all of your family and Jonathan’s family during this time. MY God bless and watch over you all.
Becky, I’m so sorry for your whole family in going through this. I just cried and cried after reading this yesterday. It sucks!!! I’ll keep Jonathan and the whole family in my prayers.
My prayers are going out for Jonathan and your family!!!
Becky, I am so sorry to read this. My brother is my best friend, and reading your post made me so very sad for all of you. You are in my prayers.
Becky, I am so sorry to hear about Jonathan. I remember you all as children and the special people that you are. My prayers go out to all of you during this trying time.
The photo of your mom and her son puts a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes. It just says so much.
Becky, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
My prayers and blessings for you and your family. May god keep you strong as you continue this journey and hold each memory in that very special place in your heart.
Praying for comfort and peace for each of you during this difficult time. May you feel the loving arms of our Heavenly Father wrapped around you and carrying you along this journey. {{{hugs}}}
Becky,
Your family has always shined and continues to shine in the face in adversity. Continued support and prayers for you and your family.
Tears filled my eyes as I read your blog and viewed your beautiful pictures of Jonathan and his family. I have been in love with your family ever since I met you guys while on my mission too many years ago to remember. Your family has left an remarkable imprint on my life of what a family truly is, and something I try to achieve with my own family. The picture of you, David and your mom and dad with Jonathan at chemo proves that continued love and support you have for one another. With that, the picture of “Mama Allgaier” by Jonathan’s bedside got me! A mothers love and support is endless and she is an amazing example of that. Seeing her with her Longaberger basket just crocheting away is classic Mama A!
Love,
Colleen “Peacock”
P.S. I have admired your success over the years. I’m thrilled for you Becky! Congrats!
Becky,
I am so so sorry for all that you guys are going thru. Scott and Rachael have been keeping our family informed as Jonathan has been going thru all of this. (Rachael’s brother works for Jonathan)
My heart goes out to you and all your family. Thank you for writing about it on your blog and posting the pictures. For us who are far away, and love your family, it means a lot. We’ll pray for Tina and the kids especially that they will be strengthened and comforted.
Much Love!
in our special prayers!
Things like this make me so grateful for God’s plan. So much suffering, but so much hope through the covenants we make with Him. Blessings to you and your family!
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Keeping your brother and your family in our prayers. Sending Florida hugs to you.
I can’t imagine the heartbreak you are all enduring. God bless each of you.
Keeping you and your family in my prayer….
Becky, I am very sorry that your brother has this terrible disease. I just said a prayer for him and your family, and I will continue to pray for you all.
Praying right now for your brother and your entire family, Becky!! Many will stand in the gap for you during this time!!!
Thank-you for sharing this special part of your life with us. Praying for your entire family, Hugs to you all
This post brings up so many emotions for me. My very young older brother also had this terrible disease and passed away at age 43 leaving us all bereft. Unfortunately he kept us all somewhat in the dark about the progression of the cancer in his effort to “protect” us. By the time I knew what was really happening, I immediately got on a plane to the UK and, although I got to see him, he was heavily medicated for the pain and we were not able to talk. He passed away soon after. One of the greatest sadnesses in my life is that we did not have that time, so it is wonderful to see your family united and strong and spending time with Jonathan. So many wonderful images of family (your mom by his bedside just makes me so sad for what she has to face) and I pray that you will keep these images always in your heart. You are surrounded by people who love you; let their love hold you up and strenghten you as you face what is to come. You and your family are in my prayers.
Becky,
I am not the best at expressing my love and appreciation for love ones in a daily basis. I grew up not receiving a single hug or a kiss from my mother or any family member that is just that way we were raised. So it is very difficult to me express my love with hugs or kind words. But I want you to know that I love you and I admire you for your strength, your kindness, you beauty, and your talents.
Me and Doug are deeply sorry for this difficult time you and your family are going through. We pray that Heavenly Father ease Jonathan’s pains and give comfort and strength to his family and your family.
Lots of love from Me and Doug to you
Dear Becky,
All my best thoughts and prayers go out to you and your amazing family!
My thoughts are with you and your family Becky….
Becky, I have prayed for your brother, his family and you and your family!! May you feel God’s presence through all of the prayers and emails being sent to you! May you all find peace, understanding and strength during all of this! sincerely to you all!
My prayers are with your family, Becky. No words can ease your pain, but I pray that God will envelop you all in his loving arms and give you strength to face the days ahead.
oh Becky. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with your family.
Becky, your post moved me to tears. I’m so sorry for all that your brother & his family have been through. I will be praying for all of you.
What a beautiful, well-written post. Thank you for the reminder that we all need to really focus on what’s important – stronger relationships. My thoughts and prayers are with Jonathan, his beautiful family, you and your family, and all that are touched by him.
Hi Becky,
Your post moved me to tears. I have been following you since early 2000. Jonathan’s face is a familiar one as I have seen him in several of your layouts featured in Creating Keepsakes and in some of your books throughout the years. I will keep Jonathan, his family, and your family in my prayers.
Hugs to Jonathan…
Lisa
I am so very sorry. My prayers will be with your brother and you and your families at this difficult time.
Becky,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My mom passed away after a short but brutal battle with cancer earlier this year and when you say you are consumed by your brothers suffering I know exactly what you mean. Knowing that you have been going through this while you have been running your business makes me so proud of you because I know how hard it is just to get through one day, sometimes one hour. May you and your family be surrounded by angels (those on this earth, and those beyond the veil) and my your family experience the many tender mercies that come from your trials.
Becky,
I am so sorry to read this post.
Colon cancer truly is a pain in the butt.
My father-in-law died of colon cancer in 2008. He went so quickly he never even got the opportunity to receive treatment. I’ve just said a prayer for you and your whole family.
Hugs and many blessings
Becky-
I have read your blog for YEARS and followed you in Creating Keepsakes long before that. I rarely comment, but I just want you to know that you are not alone in this fight. I know the heartache, tears and sleepless nights of cancer.
My Dad was daignosed 4 years ago. I also know that there are so many who pray along with you that you never know about. I have been touched many times hearing of different children and individuals praying for him. My heart is right there with you as are my prayers. Jonathan will continue to be in my prayers. Bless all of your hearts. I’m so sorry. Families are forever.
With Love, Angie Pope
I’ve been in your mom’s shoes – crocheting in the chemo ward.
The past two years for my family has also been cancer filled, my mom went though a year of chemo, Breast Cancer, while at the same time my brother-in-law was battling metastatic malignant melanoma. At age 41 he lost his 2 1/2 year battle just this past October, leaving behind my sweet sister and their 3 littles (12, 4 and 2). I’m grateful that I have a job that allowed me to be gone SO often to be their caregiver (my mom’s primary and helping my sister w/ the kids and watching my brother-in-law when needed)
Many thoughts and prayers for your family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this most difficult time. Cling to your faith and to each other, now more than ever, they are what will get you through times like this. You are an amazing person and I know you will take care of everyone in your family as they deal with the devastation that cancer brings, please remember to take care of yourself too.
Jonathan and his family as well as you and yours will be in my prayers.
Becky, my heart breaks for Jonathan and your entire family. Your post demonstrates so beautifully your philosophy that our photographs tell the story of our lives. Actually seeing Jonathan and his family helped me to put faces on the many lives that are being impacted by this struggle with cancer. After I read your post my family asked me what was wrong…it was difficult to explain to them the impact that your photographs and words had. May God grant Jonathan and your entire family His peace during this most difficult of times.
Becky, I will pray for Jonathan, his family and yours. It breaks my heart so see families suffering from cancer. I lost my precious grandfather from prostate cancer and even after 26 years, I still miss him so much. God bless your families!
Jonathan, his wife & children & you all are in my prayers.
This is on my wall in our sun room . . .
“Rejoice Always, Pray Constantly, Give Thanks in Everything!
For this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
Sending prayers of comfort, peace, hope & love.
:0)
I think dealing with this situation is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. My dad passed away the week after Christmas from Brain Cancer. It is so hard to watch them fight and know that the chances of winning against the cancer is small. I was fortunate enough to be able to spend the summer with him at all of his treatments and to sit with him the week before he passed. Depsite the beliefs we share it’s still difficult to watch and live through. Know that many are praying and thinking about your family.
I cannot imagine how difficult this has been and will be on your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Hi,
I so appreciated seeing your post on your blog. Tina is our niece through Madelene. We have been following the facebook posts and receiving updates from the family when possible. It’s an extremely hard situation for Madalene to talk about. We are remembering all of you in our prayers. Thank you so much for sharing.
Cheryl
Becky, I’ve never met you but have served with, ate with and have had some great times with your brother…These pictures really are great, thank you for sharing…
Jonathan, I love you man, I hope and pray and fast that you are strengthened spiritually and upheld by Heavenly Father…there must be a reason for this trial and you will be stronger I know it… I miss our young men’s discussions and our talks in your office and eating sushi at Matsutaki… please know that our family loves you and your family…your picture looks great…if it weren’t for Spencer’s example which you influenced greatly I’m sure then Kyle would have had a tough time with his decision to NOT play soccer of Sunday’s…thank you for your example we feel blessed by it…
Love, Erik
Hi becky,sending all my positive thoughts to you and your family at this difficult time.x
Becky, I met you and your mom years ago at a CKU in Detroit. You are good people and I know your public presence has connected you to many people with much love for you and your family. I will pray for your brother and family now. Please send info me on where donations can be made.
Becky, you continue to remind us all of the bigger picture, that it is the relationships with those we are fortunate enough to know and love while on this earth that are improtant. Each day is truly a gift.
I’m praying for God to heal your brother and to wrap His arms around you and his family and friends to give you peace and strength during this difficult time.
Much Love to you,
Alison
becky, the picture of your mom sitting by your brother’s side really touched me. she is spending every single moment with him she can, until he leaves this earth. reminds me of when my Mom had cancer and we only had 9 days with her after she was diagnosed. Every. day. is PRECIOUS. how we learn that the hard way! i will be making a contribution to your brother’s sweet family, and i will be thinking of the wonderful people that were there for me when i was where you are now…hugs! thank you for sharing this and all the wonderful scrapbooking ideas that you come up with! bless you and your family!
Becky,
Thank you for sharing and giving us the opportunity to do something. My family will pray for your brother.
Blessings.
God’s blessing to your entire family. May His strength guide you through this excruciating time.
Becky,
I usually check your blog everyday, but I have been out of pocket for the last few days and I just read your post. I can’t tell you how sorry I am for the pain that your brother is experiencing. Your family is amazing and your strength inspires me. I want you to know that your family is in my prayers, and that I will be using the link that you provided to made a donation to Jonathan’s family (I think that he looks a lot like Kevin). Don’t be afraid to lean on us when you need as added boost. We project lifers have a special bond. We may never meet in person, but we are family. Stay Strong.
Tricia
I’m just so sorry.
I have had the oppertunity to serve with Jonathan in young mens as his first councilor. What a love for the youth he has , not only our ward , but the Stake. Often times would present themselves when we were surrounded by the youth of the Stake, I will say that he new 90% of their names and their intrests. I hate what he is going thru , and yet to go thru . He is a true bell-weather. What an AWESOME father he is , ALWAYS supporting his children , wether its band , soccer , church , he has always been there for his kids. Jonathan I pray for you daily , I love you and your family. Looking forward to seeing you soon.
Rob H.
My heart and prayers go out to you, your brother and your family.
I see the sadness in your eyes. I see the sadness on Tina’s face. My heart is breaking for you and your whole family. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. I wish I could do more. Hugs from me to you
Prayers to you all. No words can ever say what really comes from the heart. Know that God is with you all as well.
Prayers to your entire family. My heart goes out to your family, Jonathan and to his wife and young children. My heart aches for them. I lost my father when I was 13 to colon cancer and know the pain you all are experiencing. To this day I am grateful for my testimony of eternal families and of the perfect atonement of Jesus Christ. I know that He is walking with and carrying you all through this difficult time.
Becky, from the first sentence until the last word, I was crying throughout this entire post. Through tears, I read (and saw) the suffering that you, your brother and family are going through. It literally BREAKS my heart to know that another family has, as is going through, the same hell that my family went through when my sister had cancer. To see someone you love so much be stripped of life, poisoned my chemo, withering away and watching others around them be tortured in a different way as their loved one is fighting a battle with cancer….well, it’s beyond painful. I will be adding you and your family to my prayer list and know that many people are sending you love and comfort. God bless…
Praying for you and your family.
Becky~ I am so sorry….cancer is a horrible disease, which takes so much out of a family. I am keeping Johnathan and your family in my thoughts, that he will beat this and get through this difficult time. I lost two good friends to cancer this year….six weeks apart….it is heartbreaking to watch the effects and feel powerless to stop it. He sounds like a wonderful brother, son, husband, father and friend to many….a very special man….thank you for sharing his personal story with us.
Becky, your brother and your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.
Jonathan visited our home in Cary one evening by himself with his first little fella and that was the only time we have seen him. It’s been a long time, but time and distance do not diminish love for family. Our prayers are with you all each and every day.
Randell and Helen Willard
Hi Becky
I will pray for Jonathan and his family and all of your family. I have recently lost my Dad and something that helped me through that time was a book by Anita Moorjani called “Dying to be Me” and it showed Anita’s experiences with cancer and she actually passed over and came back. It took away the fear for me of what my father went through and how he would feel. How he would know the love that was around him from everyone. I know it is a terrible time but maybe you could read it and it might help you or your brother or someone in the family. It helped me and my sisters.
God Bless you all
Wendy
Becky, I read this post a few days ago, and immediately started crying. My prayers are with you and your family. You did a beautiful job writing this post, I know Jonathan’s family will be very touched by your thoughtfulness.
Becky:
I’m so sorry that your brother is facing this battle. I cried as I read your post. 2 of my brothers have had cancer & are in remission & my dad had cancer but passed away 6 months after diagnosis. The love that your family & friends is truly amazing! We all went to my dad’s appointments with him & were right there through it all. I hope that Jonathan knows how much he is loved. You are in my thoughts & prayers. It is difficult to go through but I hope that it will bring you some relief to know that we are all doing our best to support you & your family from afar. Hugs
My Grandpa was just diagnosed with the same thing, stage 4. It is really hard. May God bless them both!
I’m so sorry Becky. This must be such a difficult time for you and your family. You are all in my thoughts.
My love. My prayers. Every day, every night. Thinking and praying for you all.
Jen Kolakowski
Owh Becky. Praying for your family. Your family is such an amazing bunch of people. It shines through everything you do.
I have not been near a computer for weeks so I am reading this much later after your original post. I am so sad to hear what your (whole) family is facing with Jonathan’s colon cancer. I lost my own sister to it in 2009. I can so relate to many of your pictures and the fact that you do not live near him but want to be with him as much as possible. If it were not for Project 365 in 2009 I would not have even recorded the time when my sister was going through her own chemo/radiation, etc. As I would sit by my sister’s side at her chemo sessions or bazzillions of Dr. appointments or just by her bed at home, I wrote in a little notebook about what she did each day and even the most trivial conversations. I kept taking pictures even up to the day before she died. It was fully 6 months later before I could add the words and pictures into my PL but I AM SO GLAD I DID! My hearfelt prayers for all of your family as you journey through this part of your lives. May God bless all of you.
Dear Becky and family,
I’m so very sorry to hear this, how hard it must have been to keep this to yourself. We are all here for you and the family with love, support and prayers. Wish I could be there to hug you and your brother. So happy to have project life to remember all the little details in special moments in our lives. At times like this it makes PL even more heartfelt.
Thanks for sharing this and reaching out to us for support. Will keep all of you in my daily thoughts and prayers!!!
p.s. thanks for sharing the cute pictures, love it. How awesome your mom and dad are too.
Oh Becky, my heart breaks for you and your family. It sounds like you are so lucky to have him, and he’s very lucky to have you. I especially feel for your parents. Bless your mom’s heart. My mother died when I was 3 and my grandmother and grandfather helped take care of her. No one should have to bury a son or daughter. Much love comes your way and prayers for you and your brother’ family. Thank you for sharing. It is a sad, but important reminder to us as your readers, that life is short. We need to live our lives to the fullest and love those around us. God Bless you all!
I feel for you as my dad, only 51 years old, is currently undergoing chemotherapy for stage 3 colon cancer. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Oh Becky, my heart aches for you and your family. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. My prayers are with you that you may find peace and comfort at this time. I’m grateful for your testimony of faith and family that you have shared today. Thank You for that. I too find strength in knowing Heavenly Father has a plan for each and every one of us. I am so thankful for the temple at the sealing power of the priesthood that binds us as families together forever. What a comfort that is! My little brother Jay, (34) has Glioblastoma (grade 4 Astrocytoma otherwise known as stage 4 Brain Cancer). This has been THE HARDEST thing my family and/or I have EVER gone through. Each day with him is a blessing. His persistence and strength and calmness through this past year has been awe inspiring. His example of sacrifice and what the savior has done for him personally is humbling. Although we are devastated of this diagnosis and some days the overwhelming feeling of hopelessness overrides. We look to my brother and he teaches us about the atonement. It has been a great learning experience for my children and I. I have 4 small children, and they are learning first hand how Heavenly Father’s plan works. It’s not easy, but in the end….. it will be worth it. Hugs to you my friend.
Praying for him and your whole family!
Becky,
My prayers are with you and your family. You are not alone in this battle, we are all here. Many of us are praying and there is so much power in prayer.
E
My thoughts and prayers are with Jonathan and your entire family. It is such a difficult battle to face especially for someone so young. How blessed he is to have the strength of his family to support him on the journey.
Thank you so much Becky for sharing. You have inspired me – My sister and i have not really had much of a relationship for quite some while…it has been bothering me…your beautiful heartfelt post about your brother has helped me to realise i need to make this right again. Your honesty is inspiring – thank you. God Bless you and your brother and all your families…
Tanya Hughes
Perth Western Australia
Oh Becky. I am so sorry to hear about your brother . I am praying for him, his children and wife and all of his family. Hoping gods light shines on you!
my prayers are with him and his family. Becky, can you please pass this to your brother to recite it whenever he can?
these verses are from Quran and when they are read together they have healing power over illnesses if God willing:
9:14 Fight them, and Allah will punish them by your hands, cover them with shame, help you (to victory) over them, heal the breasts of Believers,
Qatiloohum yuAAaththibhumu Allahubi-aydeekum wayukhzihim wayansurkum AAalayhim wayashfi sudooraqawmin mu/mineena
9:15 And still the indignation of their hearts. For Allah will turn (in mercy) to whom He will; and Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.
Wayuthhib ghaythaquloobihim wayatoobu Allahu AAala man yashaowaAllahu AAaleemun hakeemun
10:57 O mankind! there hath come to you a direction from your Lord and a healing for the (diseases) in your hearts,- and for those who believe, a guidance and a Mercy.
Ya ayyuha alnnasuqad jaatkum mawAAithatun min rabbikum washifaonlima fee alssudoori wahudan warahmatunlilmu/mineena
16:69 Then to eat of all the produce (of the earth), and find with skill the spacious paths of its Lord: there issues from within their bodies a drink of varying colours, wherein is healing for men: verily in this is a Sign for those who give thought.
Thumma kulee min kulli alththamaratifaoslukee subula rabbiki thululan yakhruju min butoonihasharabun mukhtalifun alwanuhu feehi shifaonlilnnasi inna fee thalika laayatanliqawmin yatafakkaroona
17:82 We send down (stage by stage) in the Qur’an that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe: to the unjust it causes nothing but loss after loss.
Wanunazzilu mina alqur-ani mahuwa shifaon warahmatun lilmu/mineena walayazeedu alththalimeena illakhasaran
26:80 “And when I am ill, it is He Who cures me;
Wa-itha maridtu fahuwayashfeeni
41:44 Had We sent this as a Qur’an (in the language) other than Arabic, they would have said: “Why are not its verses explained in detail? What! (a Book) not in Arabic and (a Messenger an Arab?” Say: “It is a Guide and a Healing to those who believe; and for those who believe not, there is a deafness in their ears, and it is blindness in their (eyes): They are (as it were) being called from a place far distant!”
Walaw jaAAalnahu qur-ananaAAjamiyyan laqaloo lawla fussilat ayatuhuaaAAjamiyyun waAAarabiyyun qul huwa lillatheena amanoohudan washifaon waallatheena layu/minoona fee athanihim waqrun wahuwa AAalayhim AAaman ola-ikayunadawna min makanin baAAeedin
I wish him a recovery from this suffering. May Allah grant him a full recovery. Love
Becky, my heart aches for you. I’m so glad you have the gospel and temple blessings. I pray that you’re family will feel the love of the Lord at this time. I understand the need to help those going through cancer treatment. That’s why my husband is on the board for Cache Valley for Hope. We raise money for cancer patients in Cache Valley which doesn’t help your brother but it might be something you could do on a continual basis to help other cancer fighters on your blog and as a way to honor your brother after you finish helping his family meet their financial obligations. Cancer patient families are 8xs more likely to declare bankruptcy than average and if their care lasts longer than a year, multiply that by 4. plus those receiving chemo have a much more difficult time. Add any surgery into the mix. Well, you understand. You’ve watched your brother’s family struggle. Just think about it. Email me if you’d like to talk more about how to start your own foundation. Take care and hugs from Utah!
The day I read this post I had tears streaming down my face just thinking of Jonathan & all of your family – this is such a difficult thing to go through. I’m so, so, sorry and wish I could wave a “get rid of cancer” wand. There has not been a day since I read your post that I don’t pray for your family. I feel this deeply because just a month ago, we lost a very dear friend to a very similar situation as yours. You are right, every single minute counts – spend as much time as you can with Jonathan, skype or call or text or visit – anything, you will always reflect on the time you had with him – it’s priceless! I’m praying each of you gets to connect with him and that he is surrounded with love & comfort as he walks this road. Love & prayers!
Dear Becky,
I understand how hard this is as I lost my own excellent father to colorectal cancer when I was 17. Has your family heard of the Gerson Therapy. It has wonderful success with many cancers. The Gerson Institute has a clinic in Mexico and a website. I encourage you to investigate, there is hope.
With much respect and admiration,
Anna.
Becky,
I had hoped and prayed when I read your original post regarding your brothers’ cancer that he would beait. I have no doubt that you and your family have and continue to gain strength through God’s grace, yet it still must be so very difficult to see someone you love in pain and fighting in such a way.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time.
Karen
Becky – Although you don’t know me, I feel like I have known you for a long time, as I have followed and admired your work from your first Handwriting and Sketches books. I was so sorry to read this news about your brother and will continue to pray for you all. Those were lovely photos that you posted – I was especially struck by the one of your mom sitting at your brother’s bedside. It just reminded me that no matter how old your children get, they are still your children and you are still watching over them.
The Jonathan in my life was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in June 2011. He did not share his struggle outside the immediate family. I pray that community and family will carry you through this difficult time. Jon’s struggle ended August 22, 2011. He is with us in so many ways. He was with his brother in his surprising run as the interim head coach of the Arizona Wildcats football team and will surely be standing by Tim’s side at Oklahoma this year. He was with our younger son , Nate in his college soccer head coaching debut season and our older son as he pursued his dream career in basketball video production. He has been with me as I retired from the American Red Cross and traveled to medical missions. Celebrating life on this earth is one of God’s blessings so I pray that you can fully enjoy life with Jonathan now. God’s goodness extends beyond life on earth and Jon touches us daily. As a Buckeye you may be familiar with Pelotonia’s one goal- to end cancer. I pray for that outcome in the future and yet experience joy in spite of our loss to cancer today. Take care.
First and foremost, I’m profoundly sorry to hear of the news. As a young widow following the loss of a spouse to brain cancer, the familiarity of your story and the anguish of all involved, just breaks my heart. There are no words to convene that will absolve what is “now”, and what’s ahead, but I still thought it important to share with a wonderful, charitable community that has been there for me since the very beginning; Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation is devoted to helping those undergoing loss and grief, especially “young widows”. I know that right now might not necessarily be the time to share this with you, but it’s a valuable resource for connecting with others facing similar grief experiences, and the struggles of widowhood. You’d mentioned your SIL, and immediately, I felt it necessary to to tell you about Soaring Spirits. They’re the epicenter of the widowhood community, and they’ve affiliations with numerous non-profits dedicated to bringing a voice, and support system to loss. Here is there website: http://www.sslf.org/
Blogging about your beautiful brother is very brave. I wish you all the very best and hope like hell he beats the odds!
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I read your post sitting across the table from my father who is slowly losing his battle against secondary tumors in his lungs. Hearing his body-wracking cough breaks my heart, but I want to share as much time with him as possible while I still can. We celebrated his 66th birthday the day before yesterday. I’m so grateful we had that many years with him, and so sad we won’t be having more. Being agnostic, I can’t say I’ll be praying for Jonathan and his family, but my thoughts certainly are with you and with all the people affected by this awful disease.
You don’t know me, but sharing your brother’s fight is a brave and inspiring thing to do. I just want to say that my heart breaks for your family. It is so difficult to watch a loved one go through this fight against cancer as I have been there in my own family as well as close friends families. The feeling of helplessness can be overwhelming at times. Please know I will keep your betrothed and your family in my prayers.
I meant to say, I will keep you brother and your family in my prayers. I didn’t catch the autocorrect.
Becky, my heart breaks for you and your family. I am praying that God’s comfort and peace surround each of you during this very difficult time. I lost my only brother in 2006 and it was the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life. Had it not been for God I don’t think I could have made it. All the special memories that you have with Jonathan will warm your heart always! May God touch him and surround him with his love and comfort. God bless you all!
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Becky, I don’t know you personally except thro crafting,(and a sister in the gospel) and learned of Jonathan thru Lisa B’s blog. I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to kidney cancer, my sister to breast cancer and my only other sister has ovarian cancer so I can emphazize. It is such a nasty thing. My son lives in Maryland (close to Frederick) and has been a Stake Pres. and is now a Bishop so maybe he knew your brother. God Bless you and I will continue to follow you thru crafts.
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